Parents struggle to talk to kids after teacher sex allegations

by Kelli Cheatham (kcheatham@wsbt.com)

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Experts say there are ways you can talk to your kids about sexual misconduct in school. (WSBT photo)

ST. JOSEPH CO. — A Penn Harris Madison teacher and coach pleaded not guilty Monday to two felony counts of child seduction. Many students are asking tough questions about the Brooke Biggs accusations. And parents struggling to come up with the answers.

Brooke Biggs, 27, is accused of having an inappropriate sexual relationship with a 16-year-old Penn High School student.

Biggs teaches 7th and 8th grade P-E at Grissom Middle School. She coaches high school softball and women's basketball at Penn.

It's not easy for parents to talk to their kids about a teacher accused of child seduction.

"Whether it's at school with children or in the workplace with adults, it's the topic of conversation," said Child Psychologist Hugh Van Auken.

"They are asking questions," one parent told WSBT after school Monday.

"We don't really know how to handle it," said Grissom Middle School parent Ronnie Mann.

But Van Auken told WSBT there are ways to approach the topic of sexual misconduct.

"It's very important that parents keep in mind their child's age. You don't need to go into great graphic detail in most instances with very young children," he explained. "They won't understand what it is."

Older kids will want to know more. Van Auken said it's important for parents to be very honest and straightforward with their kids when discussing issues of sexual abuse and sexual victimization.

Biggs isn't the first PHM teacher or coach accused of sexual misconduct. In 2001, Penn softball coach Chris Woods was convicted of child seduction when he ran off with a 17-year-old student.

In 2004, Walt Disney teacher Timothy Wylie was convicted of molesting a fourth grader. In 2008, a case against Theresa Getz was dismissed after accusations she had sex with a 14-year-old Grissom student.

"People who do [sexually abuse kids] are not freakish, odd-looking people," said Van Auken.

According to a 2004 study from the US Department of Education, 9.6 percent of students are targets of educator sexual misconduct.

"Usually it's someone that the child would know," Van Auken continued.

He said parents should make sure their kids know they know they can always disclose information to a counselor, teacher, clergyman or someone else they trust.

Some parents might worry how their kids are affected by the accusations against Biggs.

Van Auken said parents should be concerned if their students begin to shy away from teachers, or indicate they are scared of their teachers when there isn't good evidence they should be. Talking to the student is the best thing to do.

Wednesday, Oct 8 at 2:02 PM Grit wrote ...

Sorry, commonsenseguy, as much as I wish you were right, all she has to do is move to another state and start over. It's happened too many times to think it can't. Which is sad, because you really are right about teachers (coaches, bus drivers...) having such a huge burden of responsibility for the youngsters in their charge. Perhaps someday all school systems will have a unified data base to make screening easier. Hence, my (somewhat archaic) idea about forehead tattoos.

Wednesday, Oct 8 at 12:34 PM commonsenseguy wrote ...

Teachers have an important responsibility towards the children they serve. Students and parents have to TRUST their teachers to behave properly. Violations of trust cannot be tolerated. While I feel sorry for Ms. Biggs and the situation she has gotten herself into (she will never teach or coach children again), she has the ultimate resposibility for her improper actions and must face the fact that she violated the trust placed in her.

Wednesday, Oct 8 at 11:45 AM Cornfusion wrote ...

To Anam 1:15 AM; TSK,TSK, TSK, TSK! You NASTY BOY! She'll NEVER get a fair trial NOW!

Wednesday, Oct 8 at 1:15 AM Anonymous wrote ...

If you need some help talking to your students about sex GOOGLE 'Brooke Biggs' and see if that doesn't offer a few ice breakers.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 10:52 PM Grit wrote ...

Odd, but these days, I have trouble NOT talking to my kids about sex, and they're only in elementary school. They went off to kindergarten knowing that some people in the world are eager to take advantage of them with no thought of anything other than their own selfish wants. Since weirdos don't wear uniforms, my kiddies need to know the behaviors to watch out for. As for the perverts out there preying out children- tattoo "trash" on their foreheads and throw them in prison for a few decades.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:03 PM Anonymous wrote ...

you know all you guys need to think about the crap that comes out of your mouth alot of this is to be blamed on the govt overseas they are open about sex so its no big deal when the kids get older but over here we hide it and make it sound bad so when the kids find out where and how to use there bodys we have 14 15 16 year olds having babys

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 8:54 PM An athletic supporter wrote ...

John I appreciate your position and I hope that you can assist her family in providing her with a defense that will make sure no prison time is involved in this travesty of justice. In fact I think the punishment should fit the crime so she'll be lucky to be spanked and get a good tongue lashing! Good luck!

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 5:53 PM boomer954 wrote ...

this is what you get when you won't let the school correct your kids. if a teacher even looks at a kid wrong what's todays parents do? they cry i'll sue i'll sue.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 4:05 PM John wrote ...

You people act like you have never done anything wrong, and your kids are perfect. I’ve got news for all of you high school parents, your kids are not perfect, and you have no idea what they are doing when they are not around you. If anyone is to blame here it is the parents of the 16 year old, in no way should they have let the relationship get as deep as it got. STOP putting all of the blame on Brooke, all of you parents should start being more responsible, Lets buy are child a $30,000 car to

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 4:04 PM John wrote ...

drive to school, that teaches them responsibility ,sounds like a plan, lets let our 15 and 16 year olds play Grand Theft Auto, good idea!!! All of you High School Parents saying that Brooke should be locked up, you should really think again, YOU should all be to blame here, I am not saying what Brooke was doing was right, but have of the BS you parents do is WRONG. Open your eyes and start taking responsibility for you child’s actions! To all you parents making negative comments about this whole

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 4:04 PM John wrote ...

you make me SICK!!!! GROW UP!!!

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 3:26 PM parent too wrote ...

In junior high (1970') us in the public school system couldn't wait for the private kids to join us at a certain grade level. They were always more advanced in all the "fun stuff" then we were. It was a well known fact the private kids were wild.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 1:40 PM private school mom wrote ...

9:42Anonymous Oh Awake I am. Provide me a link to the last time there were any reports of child molestation, seduction, guns, bomb threats, school shootings at a private school. I have read just today on this site at least 4 stories of these sorts of things at our local public schools. Yes "issues" are everywhere, but the incident is much higher in public education. So I am waiting for the links...and something in this decade dear.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 1:31 PM Anonymous wrote ...

What is the truth?.. Nothing hs been really told on what really happen. So how can the parents tell the kids the real truth. There maybe rumors floating around, but until the real truth comes out, I would just tell my kids, that this teacher supposdly had an illegal relationship with a student.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 12:46 PM Jorge wrote ...

Just tell your kids DON'T TRUST ANYBODY!

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 12:09 PM Bryan wrote ...

I thought this kind of thing only happens on the west side or so do people think.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 11:47 AM Private School is so much better!! Hmmm... wrote ...

To Private School Mom, Oh boy you are in for a rude awakening, or you are just naive. I worked at and attended a a private school and I hate to tell you that when it comes to sex, drugs and alcohol the private school kids move much faster. I bet if you go to a party thrown by a kid from a private school and 1 from a public school, you will find more alcohol, drugs and sex at the party thrown my Mr. Private-School than if you went to the other kid's party. I've worked with both groups..I know.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 10:56 AM parent wrote ...

shame on the school for not addressing the childrens questions!!!!

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 10:55 AM Ed wrote ...

To "communists schools." Your post is so stupid it's cartoonish. "Freedom of Kids" is in the Constitution and the Bill of Rights? Point it out to me, Einstein. I hope you're not responsible for parenting any kids. Parents have control over the kids precisely because they are KIDS! The only thing that's "esculated" in the last 22 years since you quit school is your level of ignorance. Please don't post further as it reflects poorly on the community as a whole.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:47 AM what is so difficult wrote ...

The problem with some of you parents is you try to sugar coat everything. Try being a parent instead of a friend and tell them the truth. Raise your kids right. This isn't difficult to talk about at all. She screwed up and will pay the price. Just be honest with your kids. It is time they know our world is like a cartoon.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:44 AM communist schools..... wrote ...

Schools have been restricting freedom of kids that's in our Constitution & Bill of Rights. They're COMMUNISTS! I know that the violence has esculated since I was in school (22 years ago) but there is no freedom of speech what so ever.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:42 AM Anonymous wrote ...

Wake up private school Mom..there are MANY ISSUES in the private school, the news is just biased against reporting them. I taught in the 'private schools' and know that there are many things kept behind 'closed doors'

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:26 AM Carman Tollgate wrote ...

Sex should be taught at early age to children who otherwise because of being naive, those teachers are abusing them and making all kinds of trouble for the system and parents and the children themselves. It should not be a secret talking about sex to all children. The see sex all the time on TV on the internet, even in the street where pictures os naked women and men are portayed on beer, cigarrets and other hot items specially the drinking ones. So there should be a mandatory to teach sex every

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:18 AM private school mom wrote ...

What has happened to all the people that were posting here last week defending this teacher? This board went from this teacher being the "best" to now being the worst. Come on you wishy washy Michiana folks make up your mind. Why are all these stories always associated with the public school. Looks like I will be trying to figure out how to pay for tuition again next year to keep mu kid away from the perverts.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 9:10 AM to 10:12PM Anonymous wrote ...

That is correct...The students are NOT allowed to talk about it at School. HMMM, who, at the school can they go to then???

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 8:32 AM ep wrote ...

First, my daughter had Ms. Biggs as a teacher last year and was not at ALL surprised to hear the accusations against her. Apparently, she wasn't as discreet as she believed. Second, there were students asking questions in class and the teacher "went off" on the students, saying that Ms. Biggs was a close friend and that she didn't believe it and simply didn't want to hear anymore talk about it. These "leaders" are showing our kids that if something happens to them, no one will believe it.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 6:52 AM Siege wrote ...

It doesn't matter if the victim wasn't scared. It doesn't even matter if she initiated the behavior. She is a CHILD (age 15 at the time of the incidents) and the teacher is the ADULT. And while many high school students are very sexual and/or adult-like, there are just as many who are physically or emotionally younger than their chronological age. The teacher is in the wrong.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 6:39 AM why not me wrote ...

Let it gopeople, she didn't do anything wrong. She didn't prey on her, it was two women searching out for each other.They found one another and have made a beautiful relationship out of it. Let them live thier life, it not like the young lady was underage, she knew what she was doing and out of love they continued with their love. The only thing parents need to talk to their kids about is minding their own buisness, if she was a good teacher that's all that matters. Who cares about her sex life.

Tuesday, Oct 7 at 4:45 AM SC wrote ...

Some where along the line the child needs to be punished. These kids are just as guilty. I'm not saying it right but look at these children today, They dress with less and you think they don't know what they are doing. In most case's, I'll bet, the child is getting off without any punishment.

Monday, Oct 6 at 10:43 PM It's NEVER too soon! wrote ...

Bob Hope,on a Christmas mission visiting service people abroad read a letter from home that a sailor showed him which included an account of his 5 year olds newest flame, a 6 year old boy that lived across the street. These two crazy kids announced they wanted to get married and when asked by a grandparent what they would do for money the girl said,"He gets $1 a week and I get one every month." The grandparent smiled and asked "What about kids?" to which she replied, "So far we've been lucky!"

Monday, Oct 6 at 10:35 PM M. wrote ...

To Tom: Until you have children, don't judge parents by calling them "uptight". And to SO SAD: I agree with you completely. Teachers are supposed to be someone you can trust to take care of your children. Anyone who thinks what this teacher did is okay has some serious mental problems.

Monday, Oct 6 at 10:12 PM Anonymous wrote ...

I have heard (note: this is just hearsay) that the students at Grissom were told not to discuss the situation at school and not to ask the teachers any questions. If they do, they will be written up for an in-school suspension. I hope this isn't true. Perhaps the school isn't sure how to deal with the situation and think that this is a solution. I really think the school should work with someone like Dr. VanAuken and present something to the students...I am sure many of them have questions.

Monday, Oct 6 at 10:00 PM tom wrote ...

I don't have kids. But why is it so hard to talk to your own childeren about sex? I mean, isn't it better they know the right information and right terms then guess what is suppose to be. I don't get it. So many uptight people

Monday, Oct 6 at 9:59 PM ok wrote ...

I am finding the 9.6% figure a bit difficult to buy into. And the last paragraph of the story...It sounds like the child wasn't scared at all. That's why they got busted.

Monday, Oct 6 at 9:40 PM triumph110 wrote ...

This is happening all over the country. Go to www.schoolteachernews.com and click on the Scandal page. They have documented over 365 of these types of incidents since just the beginning of 2008.

Monday, Oct 6 at 9:33 PM SO SAD wrote ...

I am a teacher and I am disgusted by this woman. She makes the rest of us look bad. I am an elementary teacher and I try to keep my students safe from their environment...now I may need to think about keeping them safe from other teachers. THIS IS SICK AND WRONG NO MATTER WHAT THE STUDENT'S AGE WAS! She violated everything teachers should stand for! I have no sympathy for this woman...she is an adult and made really awful choices. She should try to date people her own age-not children.

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